Wedding Organization Tips for Noobs
As a serial bridesmaid, I’ve come to learn that planning a wedding is nowhere near as difficult as people make it out to be. Are you freaking out about it? Okay, the first thing you need to do is pour yourself a glass of wine. Now take a deep breath, drink up, and relax. No, you don’t need to hire an expensive agency to plan this for you. Yes, it’s okay to pour yourself another glass. With my experience, I realized that everything can be done, as long as you start on time and rely on your close friends to help you out. Since I have helped plan a few weddings, I’m willing to share a few tips that will make it easier for you to know what to focus on.
Work out the budget
Do this first, and then make sure to let your bridesmaids know what your limit is, so they can help you with suggestions. Try to stay within the budget, but give yourself some leeway right from the start. Unexpected things will pop up, or you’ll find a dress that’s expensive, but perfect and you’ll feel like you won’t be happy without it. Count on the extra costs and you won’t be caught off guard. If you’re filthy rich and have a limitless budget, well, then why are you even reading this? Wear a dress covered in diamonds and sparkle your way off to the honeymoon in the Bahamas. You don’t need me.
Book the venue early and start making the guest list
It’s very hard to plan anything if you haven’t set the date, so talk to your partner and do that as soon as possible. Then pick the venue and call to reserve it, especially if you plan to get married during the summer months. Start putting together a guest list to make sure you remember everyone you want there. People dream of having a huge wedding where they will get to rub their success into everyone’s faces, but don’t do that. Trust me, from experience, it’s best to call just the people you actually want to see there. Otherwise you’re in risk of having drunken drama queens making a mess and hogging your spotlight.
Pick the dress and arrange all the other details
I’d like to recommend that you don’t bother with picking an expensive dress, but if you want to feel like a princess, you’re allowed to feel like a damn princess. The dress is important for every bride, and I don’t think you should stop until you find the right one – regardless of what the right one is. Maybe you’re going to rock a leather jacket with your mini dress, maybe you want a traditional gown, maybe you want a white suit. It all goes, just pick what makes you happy and helps you feel special. Besides the dress, there are other details to keep in mind: the flowers, the cake, the catering service, the officiant, the photographer, the wedding invitations, the band, and last but not least, what your bridesmaids are going to wear. And for the love of all that is good and holy, please, don’t force your poor bridesmaids into ugly, unflattering dresses. We’ll grin and bear it, but just so you know, we’ll be calling you bridezilla behind your back.
Make an engagement party
The wedding day is a big thing and will likely be at least a little stressful and exhausting. Don’t get me wrong, you will absolutely enjoy it, but there will be many details to manage and last-minute disasters to fix, even with the help of your bridesmaids. That’s why I think it’s a good idea to make an engagement party, which should be a more intimate affair for friends and family. It’s important to make it special because you’re announcing to the world that you have picked a life partner and that you intend to be happy. The whole thing can be very romantic and pleasant, and the best thing is that there’s a lot less pressure. Send out the unique engagement party invitations, go to your favourite restaurant, and make sure to toast to your sexy future hubby and the great life you’ll have together.
Plan the honeymoon
Check your schedules and see when would be a good time to take your honeymoon. It doesn’t need to follow the wedding immediately, you can take your honeymoon whenever you like. Make sure to let your bosses know about your plans so your career wouldn’t suffer and agree about the destination with your partner. As with anything, book this well in advance so you wouldn’t run into any unpleasant surprises and so you could get full refund if your plans suddenly change.
Don’t forget the bachelorette party
Everything else is optional, including the wedding, but this isn’t. This is your time to have fun and go wild. Have your girlfriends plan it, it’s time you got some rest from all the wedding preparations. Go to a club, or have a house party, anything goes as long as you let your friends pamper you and tease you about becoming a serious, married woman. This is all about you and your female friendships, so sit back and enjoy.
The most important thing to know about wedding planning is how to take things in stride. Trouble is bound to pop up, but anything can be resolved. What are friends for if not to hand you emergency glasses of wine when you’re upset and provide copious amounts of chocolate and hugs?